Azalea CounsellingCounselling in Eastleigh near Winchester
with Vicky Mould MNCS Prof Accred.

Healing From Domestic Abuse. Healing from domestic abuse

Counselling can help free you from the effects of an abusive relationship

Domestic abuse takes many forms - emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, financial, yet it always involves feeling controlled, dependent on the person, isolated or scared.

If you're a survivor of domestic abuse, including being exposed to abuse and violence in your childhood or teenage years, and would like support in your healing journey, please get in touch.

Leaving or ending an abusive relationship takes real strength and resourcefulness - even if it doesn't feel like that, yet the effects of that relationship may remain with you today.

The effects of an abusive relationship can be wide-ranging, and while everyone is different, you may recognise some of the following within yourself:

  • Feelings of fear, guilt, anger, shame or self-blame
  • Low self-esteem or feelings of self-disgust
  • Feeling unable to trust others
  • Low mood, anxiety or depression
  • Post-traumatic stress and or borderline personality disorder
  • Body image issues or an eating disorder
  • Suicidal thoughts or attempts
  • Physical health problems
  • Using coping strategies such as self-harm, street drugs or alcohol
  • Loss and grief, including a sense of 'I don't know who I am'.

    What you can expect from me as a person-centred counsellor
    I will work to ensure you feel safe in my presence and that I'm someone you can trust.

    I have personal experience (I'm a survivor too) and professional knowledge of domestic abuse, and I will believe what you tell me.

    Whatever you're feeling or have experienced, I will relate to you with genuine compassion, respect, understanding and acceptance.

    Healing does take time, yet hope is important, and I will trust in your ability to heal and move forward.

    I can help you make sense of and come to terms with your experience, rebuild your self-esteem - so you feel okay with who you are, and form and maintain loving and supportive relationships.

    We will work together at your pace - in a way that is helpful for you, and for as long as you need.

    Are you worried about a person under the age of 18? If you suspect or know that your teen is in an abusive relationship and would like support with this, please get in touch.

  • Are you currently in an abusive relationship or think you might be?

    People who inflict domestic abuse are often partners - when you're dating, living together, married or in a civil partnership, ex-partners or parents, and sometimes grandparents, siblings or children.

    Domestic abuse isn't always easy to recognise or acknowledge, yet an abusive relationship usually involves some or all of the following experiences:

  • Being monitored, checked up upon or followed around
  • Being subjected to accusations, suspicion or jealousy for no reason
  • Being belittled, humiliated, verbally insulted and criticised
  • Receiving verbal threats, being physically assaulted - including with objects and weapons, and when pregnant
  • Having your possessions deliberately damaged
  • Having to change your behaviour because you're scared or anxious of what the other person might do or say
  • Being kept away from other people and feeling dependent on the person
  • Being prevented from or the person makes it hard for you to get or keep a job or start or continue with education
  • Being kept short of money so you can't buy essential items for yourself or your children or having debt accrued in your name
  • Being forced to do things that you don't want to do
  • Being prevented from taking prescribed medication or seeing a doctor when you've felt you've needed to
  • Being subjected to threats about the children, using the children against you or to relay messages
  • Being forced (rape and sexual assault), threatened or harassed to have sex or engage in sexual activities that you weren't comfortable with
  • Being prevented from leaving your house
  • Being blamed for the person's behaviour or made to feel guilty about it and hearing excuses for their behaviour.

    If you're currently in an abusive relationship or think you might be, and are feeling scared, confused, alone or unable to confide in a friend or family member, please contact one of the organisations below. They are there to listen and support you without judgement.

    Women's Aid
    T: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours)

    ManKind Initiative
    T: 01823 334 244

    Galop: The LGBT and Anti-Violence Charity
    T: 0800 999 5428

    Please hold onto the fact that no one has a right to abuse you - no matter who they are, and you are not responsible or to blame for any abuse you may be experiencing.

  • Contact me to book an introductory session or ask questions

    If you're a survivor of domestic abuse, including being exposed to abuse and violence in your childhood or teenage years, or are worried about a person under the age of 18, please get in touch.

    I can usually see you within a week for an introductory session, and then weekly or fortnightly after that.

    If you would like to book an introductory session, or ask questions before taking that step, please call 07729 193629, email [email protected] or complete and submit the contact form on this website.

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