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Azalea Counselling Counselling in Eastleigh near Winchester
with Vicky Mould

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“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Carl Rogers

Bereavement Counselling. Hope in bereavement

Bereavement counselling can enable you to cope with your experience of loss and grief

The loss of a partner, child, family member or close friend can be truly devastating, distressing and scary - I am so sorry if you're going through this.

While grief is a natural response to bereavement, other life changes and loss, it can be challenging to make sense of and cope with - even if you have experienced it before or feel strong within yourself.

Grief can take you by surprise, feel confusing, intense and overwhelming at times, and you may experience feelings and emotions such as:

  • Shock, numbness
  • Deep sadness, emptiness
  • Crying
  • Anger, guilt
  • Regret
  • Despair
  • Relief
  • Physical aches and pains
  • Pining/yearning
  • Loneliness
  • Restlessness, agitation
  • Apathy, fatigue, exhaustion
  • Panic, anxiety, depression.

    However, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to feel, or any such thing as something you should or shouldn't be feeling - everyone is different, so your sense of loss and feelings of grief will be personal to you.

    Grieving may take what feels like a long time, or certainly longer than you might expect, yet it is a necessary journey. By going through your grief at your pace, you learn to cope and adjust.

    Support from others is often helpful, yet it's not always possible to talk to, grieve with or in the presence of those closest to you - friends, family, colleagues.

    It may be that talking to a counsellor feels more comfortable or appropriate for you.

    Many people come for and benefit from bereavement counselling.

    As a practising bereavement counsellor, I can be alongside you as you are in your grief - free from judgement, any outside pressures or expectations.

    I can offer a safe environment where you can explore your experiences, express your feelings and emotions, and adjust to the changes in your life.

    I can work sensitively with you at your pace, and facilitate or support the use of creative mediums such as journal writing and art.

    I can work with you to address the additional challenges of depression, increasing anxiety or post-traumatic stress or any concerns you may have about your mental health.

    If you are a parent affected by baby loss, individual or couples counselling can be a helpful step forward.

    I have received further training in the issues surrounding baby loss - miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death, sudden infant death, and can work with you on an individual or couple basis.

    The loss of a baby can be devastating and deeply traumatic. It can bring up intense feelings of sadness, guilt, anger, fear, loss, and sometimes jealousy. You may feel depressed and even suicidal.

    Couple relationships can change as a result of the experience. Sometimes, differences in grieving and coping evoke misunderstandings, tensions and hurt.

    If you are struggling to communicate and cope as a couple, please know that couples counselling can offer an opportunity for mutual support and healing.

  • Bereavement counselling can enable you to feel supported through a loved one's life-limiting or terminal illness

    Facing a loved one's life-limiting or terminal illness can be devastating - you may feel like your whole world has come crashing down on you or a sense of being in crisis.

    If you are caring for or supporting a loved one with a life-limiting or terminal illness, you may experience feelings of stress, fatigue, and any of the following:

  • Sadness, crying
  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety, fear
  • Relief
  • Helplessness
  • Irritability, lack of sleep
  • Loneliness
  • Resentment
  • Frustration
  • Depression.

    In the family unit, everyone can be affected, yet differences in coping, strained relationships or a worry about upsetting others may make it challenging to talk to and receive support from one another.

    If you're caring for your loved one, you may feel like you have to be the 'strong one', struggle to take time for yourself or maintain contact and relationships with others.

    Bereavement counselling offers time, space and support for you, including an environment where you can or may wish to:

  • Process what is happening
  • Reflect on your relationship
  • Release feelings and emotions
  • Share or create memories
  • Make plans or decisions
  • Express worries or fears about the future
  • Talk after your loved one has died.

    I have a specialist interest in supporting carers and family members affected by advanced and terminal cancer.

    I am also familiar with lung disease, motor neurone disease, Parkinson's and dementia - including Alzheimer's.

    As a person-centred counsellor, I am easy to talk to, and you can be yourself with me.

    I can work with you in a caring and supportive way - no judgement, expectations or pressure.

    An introductory session can help us establish if we could work well together, and you can contact me to arrange this or to ask any questions you may have.

    “None of us can go through life without facing loss and grief in one or many forms. What we can do is learn how to grieve well; how to accept the often-complicated emotions that accompany loss and so bring greater meaning to our lives” - Barbara Ward.

  • You can contact me to book an introductory session or to ask any questions you may have

    I am a counsellor in Hampshire, and can currently offer online (video) or telephone sessions from Eastleigh near Winchester.

    If you would like to book an introductory session or ask questions before taking that step, please call 07729 193629 or submit the contact form on this website.

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