"When someone really hears you without passing judgement on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good". - Carl Rogers
Bereavement counselling offers a safe space where you can grieve freely and find your sense of coping
None of us can predict how we will be following the death of a loved one, yet it can be a truly devastating, distressing and lonely experience.
And while grief is a natural response, it may not feel like that when you're in the throes of it and trying to process everything that has happened.
You may experience a range of feelings and emotions that confuse you, concern you, and completely overwhelm you at times.
You may have questions that surface over and over and find yourself re-living events leading up to or at the time of your loved one's death.
Grief can be intense - it can create anxiety, knock your confidence, make you doubt your inner strength or coping abilities and purpose in life.
Whatever you are experiencing will be 'normal' for you because grief is personal to everyone. You are not 'going mad', even if it feels that way.
It's also normal to want to talk about your loved one, your feelings and experiences, yet that's not always possible with family and friends. You may be thinking about counselling for this reason.
Or you may feel you need more support at the moment or a different kind of support. Whatever your reasons, bereavement counselling can help.
As a bereavement counsellor, I am here for you in your loss and grief.
I have been a bereavement counsellor for over ten years, yet provided bereavement support and services before this, including through Cruse Bereavement Care - an established charity. I hold specific training in grief and bereavement counselling, pregnancy and infant loss.
I'm trained in couples counselling and can work with bereaved partners and family members. I also have extensive experience counselling people impacted by mental health issues.
I understand the importance of support following bereavement, yet also appreciate it can be hard to come by - particularly the right kind of support. Other people may expect you to move on with your life after a short time or "get over it".
Or perhaps you're judging yourself - on how you feel, how you're dealing with your grief or how long you've been grieving for and could benefit from some genuine compassion and acceptance.
I can support you as you are - there are no expectations or pressure to be or feel a certain way. My role is to nurture healing by enabling you to grieve at your pace and in your way.
My approach is sensitive, compassionate and understanding, and I have worked with people bereaved through many different circumstances.
I can offer you a safe and non-judgemental environment to reflect, express your feelings and emotions, share or create memories, and perhaps feel a sense of hope for the future.
Creative mediums, such as art or journal writing, can be utilised to support self-expression and coping skills - if this may be of interest to you.
With knowledge in mental health, I can assist with the additional challenges of depression, increasing anxiety or post-traumatic stress.
If you would like to explore the possibility of bereavement counselling, please get in touch.
Couples counselling can support and strengthen your relationship after the loss of your baby or babies
Couples face challenges, experience change, and go through losses together, yet a loss that can be particularly devastating and distressing is the loss of a baby (and child of any age).
I have a specialist interest in counselling couples who have experienced baby loss through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death, sudden infant death. I hope to be of some support to you.
While the loss of a baby or babies can throw a relationship into crisis, it's not true that all such relationships will end/fail. Healing can occur through the most challenging of circumstances, and counselling can nurture the healing journey.
Couples counselling offers a safe space to attend to your relationship when emotional and physical exhaustion or differences in grieving or coping may be affecting how you are together.
As a person-centred counsellor, I can offer a non-judgemental environment where you can talk, feel valued, and receive support to:
I can facilitate communication and understanding between you and offer education around grief.
Experienced in adult mental health, I can assist with the additional challenges of depression, increasing anxiety or post-traumatic stress.
I can work with you to create meaningful ways of honouring your baby or babies - if this is something you would like to do together. Some couples find this process particularly helpful.
I can also support you to develop or re-establish closeness in your relationship, such as attending to your relationship beyond your grief/grieving.
If you would like to explore the possibility of online couples counselling, please get in touch.
You can contact me to book a free consultation or to ask any questions
I offer bereavement counselling across Eastleigh, Winchester, Southampton and Fareham.
If you'd like to book a free consultation or ask questions before taking that step, please call or text 07729 193629 or use my contact form.